For some mothers, anger is a more frequent emotion than sadness or anxiety. If this sounds like you, you may be experiencing postpartum anger, leading to intense outbursts and feelings of shame during your baby’s first year. As someone who has struggled with postpartum depression, anxiety, and anger, I understand how difficult this can be. Although I am still in the process of healing, I would like to offer some insights on how to deal with postpartum rage. In this article, we will explore the causes, symptoms, and treatment options for this unfortunate behavior. Keep reading to learn more.
Symptoms of Postpartum Anger
Postpartum anger can manifest differently in each individual and may vary depending on their specific circumstances. It is important to recognize that the experience of postpartum anger is unique to each person and should be addressed accordingly. Symptoms of postpartum anger can include:
- struggling to control your temper
- increased amount of screaming or swearing
- physical expressions like punching or throwing things
- violent thoughts or urges, perhaps directed at your spouse or other family members
- dwelling on something that made you upset
- being unable to “snap out of it” on your own
- feeling a flood of emotions immediately afterward
One of the main causes of postpartum anger is the hormonal changes that occur after giving birth. The sudden drop in estrogen and progesterone levels can lead to mood swings and irritability. However, hormonal changes are not the only factor. The sleep deprivation and constant demands of caring for a newborn can also contribute to feelings of anger and frustration.
I have been irritable since having my baby. I have thrown things, slammed doors, and snapped at my babies and family members for no good reason. I don’t intentionally do these things, there is just this rage that comes over me and is difficult to battle. I am currently receiving help with my postpartum behavior and I want to share some ways to treat postpartum rage with you.
Treatment For Postpartum Anger
Postpartum rage and depression can manifest differently for each individual. It is important to consult with a doctor to determine the best course of treatment. There are three important treatment options to consider:
- Support. “Online or in-person peer support groups are so important for mom to have her feelings validated and realize she is not alone”
- Therapy. “Learning coping strategies to deal with her feelings and behavior can help”
- Medication. “Sometimes medication is needed for a temporary period of time. While mom is doing all the other work of processing her feelings, medication often helps with her overall state of mind.
One helpful approach to managing postpartum rage is to keep a journal of the incidents and triggers that provoke it. Journaling can help you identify your triggers and find ways to avoid or cope with them. Analyzing your journal entries can help you identify any recurring patterns and circumstances that tend to trigger your rage, enabling you to take steps to manage your emotions in those situations.
In addition to journaling, it can be helpful to seek support from a therapist or support group. Postpartum rage can be isolating and overwhelming, but it’s important to remember that you are not alone. A therapist can provide tools and strategies to manage your rage and help you develop healthy coping mechanisms. Support groups can provide a community of women who are experiencing similar challenges and can offer empathy, understanding, and validation. Remember to be gentle with yourself and prioritize self-care as you navigate this difficult and complex experience. It is important to remember that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
If you or a loved one is struggling with postpartum anger, know that you are not alone. With the right support and treatment, it is possible to overcome this difficult time and enjoy the joys of motherhood.
ONLINE POSTPARTUM SUPPORT GROUPS
https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/psi-online-support-meetings/
https://www.thehealinggroup.com/blog/2022/1/28/free-online-postpartum-support-groups
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